My girlfriend of 5 years went through a rough patch a few months ago and she used food as a source of comfort. She has put on a lot of weight and I really feel like I am not physically attracted to her anymore. How do I get her to workout and drop the extra pounds? She seems comfortable as she is and I’m afraid that she will just keep getting fatter.

The scenario above is fiction, but it’s a very real situation for many men at least at some point in their relationship.


Guys can feel shallow or pretty low for caring about this, and may not talk about the issue with anyone because it’s taboo. But the truth is that males are visual creatures, so naturally place a lot of emphasis on the way their partner looks.

Most guys will push the issue to the back of their mind and just try to deal with it internally, because of society’s pressure to focus on the person that’s within. However, if you don’t address something that’s bothering you, it can balloon to be a real problem, and even destroy your relationship.

So what do you do when your partner starts to put on some weight and you are not as physically attracted to them because of it? If it’s impacting your intimate life, it needs to be addressed.

Here are some practical tips for how to do it the correct way, written by a female.

Have Realistic Expectations

The average girlfriend or wife is not a supermodel. She may never have the body of a supermodel, even if she works out 10 hours a day. It may also not be realistic to expect your partner to be unhealthily thin (please realize that many models seen in advertising may actually be quite underweight, which is also unhealthy).

Not every woman can look like this. It’s not our fault.

It’s important to realize this, and where appropriate, cut your partner some slack.

If you’re in a somewhat healthy relationship, you are with her for the person she is, not just her body. And if you plan on growing older with this person, it’s inevitable that the body is going to age (and grow less attractive).

Hey, it will happen to you too, buddy. So give her some leeway where it’s due and don’t expect her to have the same body she did when you met forever.

Focus on Aspects You Do Like

If a waning physical attraction is the problem, then practice focusing and appreciating aspects of her body that you do like.

I don’t care how overweight she might be, there’s always bound to be at least some small feature that you can enjoy, like her eyes, her hair, her smile, or her skin, for example.

Compliment her constantly and sincerely on these qualities – it will make her feel attractive and appreciated. If she’s anything like me, that in itself will inspire her to try and make her body awesome for you to enjoy.

So how do you really inspire someone to work out or eat better so that they can drop that extra weight?

There are a few things that you might be able to do to help your partner, but the first thing you must realize is that….

You Cannot Make Someone Change If They Don’t Want To

They have to want to make the change themselves, otherwise they won’t stick to it or do what is necessary to make the change happen. Even the best of intentions cannot be forced.

However, there are two tools you can use to motivate someone:

  1. Pain (negative reinforcement)
  2. Pleasure (positive reinforcement)

Your goal here is to subtly help your partner associate pain to being overweight and not taking care of her body, while at the same time associate massive pleasure to exercising, eating well and being fit and healthy.

The problem is that most people associate pain to losing weight. Let’s face it: exercise may not be fun, and dieting is an obvious form of torture. Only when the perceived pain of these two activities is less than the perceived pain of being fat and unhealthy will your girl change her actions.

Sometimes we get caught up in unhealthy pleasurable activities (regular couch potato cornchip eating) which can lead to painful situations (being overweight).

With this fundamental concept in mind, let’s take a look at some practical steps you can do that may help your partner want to change:

Do’s and Don’t For Supporting Your Partner to Change


  • Treat her with respect

She’s a person, and just because she may have put on a few pounds doesn’t mean she deserves any less respect. Treat her as well as you did when you first got together. It will make her self-esteem soar and be more receptive to making changes to improve herself for you.


  • Focus on health, not aesthetics

Exercise and eat well because it makes you feel good and your body healthier (Of course, the pleasant side effect is often looking good as well!). If you only workout for the sole purpose of looking good, you’ve already lost. Time stops for no-one; your body will eventually age.



  • Work on your own health/fitness

This is a form of practicing what you preach. You can’t expect her to look great for you if you yourself have let yourself go over the years. If she sees you working on your own health and fitness, it can often inspire her to do the same for herself.


  • Use positive reinforcement

Complement her often. Praise her when she eats well, or does a workout – but be sincere. Some examples might be: ‘I love the way you look in that dress‘, ‘You look hot today!‘, ‘I can’t believe you ran 2 miles, that’s more that I could!‘, ‘You’re so good at saying no to chocolate!‘, ‘Your butt looks amazing in those jeans‘.


  • Change your eating habits – together     

Dieting sucks, but making small changes in your grocery choices can make a big difference. Don’t pig out and expect her to just eat a salad – you’re in this together. Stock the fridge and pantry with only healthy foods. Try cooking together. As a female, I love getting help from my man in the kitchen, and you can both create a healthy meal together instead of getting greasy takeaway.


  • Suggest joint commitments/activities/goals

If you yourself could stand to lose some weight, then why not try setting common goals? Have a joint commitment to exercise a set amount of times during the week. Or find an activity that she enjoys and commit to doing it with her, like swing or salsa dancing. It may seem a little out of your comfort zone, but chicks dig guys who can dance.




  • Continually bring up the topic

Only talk about the issue once (and only then if you think it will actually be constructive). No one likes a nagger, and continuously hinting that she’s overweight will make her feel lousy and be counterproductive getting her motivated to look good.


  • Buy her exercise equipment

Don’t make this mistake, unless she has specifically requested some equipment and you know for a fact that she wants it. Gifting her a thighmaster is like the equivalent of saying ‘you’re a fat pig and need to exercise‘ (in her mind, anyway).


  • Use negative reinforcement

Don’t tell her she’s fat. Don’t point out how she’s become unattractive or let herself go. If she does try to eat healthy, don’t make her feel bad if she has a bad day and binges on junk food. Ignore all the things she’s doing wrong and only use praise (positive reinforcement).


  • Try to make her jealous

This is a huge no-no. Don’t put up posters of scantily clad bikini models, or let her catch you looking at other more attractive women. Don’t talk about how hot chicks at the gym are.


  • Guilt trip her

Avoid comments like ‘you used to be really hot‘ and the like. Don’t say things like ‘I find it hard to be motivated to look good for you‘. Reverse psychology rarely works in this situation.


  • Erode her self esteem

A woman with a crumbled self-esteem is not going to want to try and be healthy, she’s going to want to turn to food or other unhealthy habits to seek comfort. Never make her feel bad, it’s not conducive to your end goals of improving her health. Don’t let her ‘accidentally’ stumble upon you reading articles like this.



  • Give her an ultimatum

Trying to shock her into action doesn’t typically work, or if it does, it’s a temporary fix at best. An ultimatum of ‘if you don’t do something about your weight it’s over‘ is risky, so don’t say something like this unless you really mean it. This would have to be an absolute last resort, used only after you have tried everything but really can’t deal with the issues at hand.

To Bring It Up, Or Not?

Many guys are not sure about if they should blatantly try to talk about the issue at hand with their woman in a logical way.

My advice here is to remember that females aren’t always the most logical creatures ;), so tread with extreme caution. It will depend on your partner’s personality, how sensitive they are about the issue, and your precise wording and even past actions that she might have drawn some un-implied meaning from about how you feel about her body.

My suggestion is to try implementing some of the Do’s and Don’ts before you breach the topic. Who knows, she may change on her own from these! However, if you try these and it’s still not working, then it may be a good time to sit down and have a chat.

Do yourself a favor and don’t mention words like ‘overweight’, ‘not attractive’, etc. Keep the discussion purely related to the health aspects of the issue. If you’ve both gotten a little plump, make it about both of you – tell her you need to improve your own health and you’d like help/support and would appreciate if she joined you on the journey.

If she blows up or it doesn’t end well then don’t breach the topic again. Just keep trying to implement the Do’s and Don’ts, and remember that she will only change when the pain she experiences from being overweight and unhealthy outweighs the pain of exercising and eating right.

A Recommended Resource

I’ve recently been reading an excellent book that can apply to this kind of situation (along with many other situations common in relationships).

Yes, it’s a bit of a self-help/relationships book… but hey, if you’ve found your way to this post you’re basically seeking both self-help and relationship advice. So why not get some advice from a pro?

The book is below (Affiliate link):

Why Talking Is Not Enough: Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage

I cannot tell you how much this book changed my perception of relationships (not just intimate ones).

The underlying theme is that you can take the high-path by choosing to act in certain ways, shift your perception, adopt an attitude of good will and more. My favorite quote that the book starts out with is this idea from writer Thomas Moore –

Slight shifts in imagination have more impact on living than major efforts at change

It means that if you can’t control or change something, then change your perception or thinking about it instead. By doing so you can often have a greater impact on the issue than if you had actually changed it.

I’m probably not doing this book or its ideas justice, but I think the content would totally help out those struggling with trying to ‘change’ their partners. It has certainly helped me to be less distressed about some issues that I couldn’t change with my partner. I’m still working on this, but am happy to report that I am no longer as bothered as I was before about the thing, and nothing actually changed… only the way that I think about it has changed.


You can’t force someone to change, but you can help them to adjust their pain/pleasure drivers so that they make healthy choices and are more inclined to work out and eat well.

There is a right way and a wrong way to go about trying to get your partner to work out more.

Positive reinforcement is always the key, as is knowing how to approach the subject in the right way. Making your girlfriend or wife feel bad about her body is rarely going to give a good result.

Above all, remember to be realistic. It’s not fair to expect someone to always be beautiful forever, and just because your partner starts working out doesn’t mean she’ll automatically look like a model. Focus on the benefits of being healthy rather than the aesthetics.

And finally, if you can’t change them – try changing yourself instead! Ultimately we only have control over one thing, and that’s how we react to things. This could be a great lesson in how you can find a better way to react to this situation too.

If you’ve found yourself in this situation before, please drop me a comment below! As a female, I’d be happy to answer any questions that I can.

How To Get Your Girlfriend/Wife To Workout: Tips From A Female

26 thoughts on “How To Get Your Girlfriend/Wife To Workout: Tips From A Female

  • September 30, 2015 at 4:51 am

    This is a great article for men to read who want to help their wife or girlfriend lose weight without eroding her self esteem or giving her an ultimatum. Positive reinforcement is the key. It also goes for the reverse too – if your husband or boyfriend has been putting on the pounds, wives and girlfriends also need to be encouraging. Develop a workout plan together and become a team in the exercise regimen. The two of you can work together on losing weight. Go the gym together and start eating healthy together. It will strengthen the bond and you both will begin to look and feel great.

    • September 30, 2015 at 11:17 am

      Thanks for the feedback Steph, I hope I’ve got it right here! I agree that it works the opposite way for women trying to convince their men to get fitter. There might be slight differences in the way you can approach a male, but the underlying concepts are the same.

  • September 30, 2015 at 10:19 am

    Hi Jolie

    Haha no wonder this is such a great article! I see at the bottom of the article you are a woman 🙂

    When I first saw the topic of your article I got annoyed already so this reallyis a touchy subject isn’t it. It triggered my bad vibes mode big time.

    Then when you said women are not the most logical creatures I started giggling.

    This is well written, covers everything in a great way and I think your points are spot on!

    Any man that wants to get his lady to lose a little must read this and take note every word here. We are very sensitive creatures and when it comes to any aspect of our bodies, tread carefully because it is a risky business.

    • September 30, 2015 at 11:23 am

      Hi Lynne, thanks for sharing your thoughts! I’m very glad that you agree with the points given 🙂

      I agree that it is totally a very sensitive topic, but can also feel a little sorry for the guys that have to put up with our funny moods sometimes. I think it really is true that the majority males do think differently than females. They tend to be a lot more logical and not driven by emotional thinking, so I hope this article helps anyone in this situation.

  • September 30, 2015 at 10:20 am


    I really like your post, it has a lot of methods I could use to get my girlfriend to workout with me in the future.

    As someone who advocates barbell training, how can I get my girlfriend to follow my routine.

    Also, what are your thoughts on females doing weight lifting exercises.

    • September 30, 2015 at 11:42 am

      Hey Ryan,

      I honestly think weight lifting is the best way for a female to get into shape! If you can get your girlfriend lifting with you that’s awesome. She will probably see more drastic results, faster, in her physique by lifting heavy than doing cardio or other low-intensity work like yoga etc.

      The question is how to get her interested. Some women can be a bit scared of lifting heavy weights because they feel they might become overly muscly (never really going to happen to the average woman, due to naturally having a lower amount of testosterone). Perhaps you could point out that gaining muscle improves your metabolism, allowing you to eat more freely without gaining weight.

      You’d probably need to test the waters by seeing if she has any interest in barbell training. Try to point out the fun aspects of it, tell her why you enjoy it and see if she shows any interest. Mention if there are already a few female lifters at the gym so she knows it’s fair game for both sexes.

      However, I’d suggest looking at a more female-friendly routine for her. Not sure about your routine, but guys tend to focus on the upper body, whereas females like to work more on lower body (legs and butt). If you do get her interested in lifting, she might like the routines in Strong Curves as they are specifically designed for female bodies. Good luck!

  • October 25, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    WOW! I’m totally blown away by this piece Jollie. I think this is by far one of your best articles thus far. It is so well written, factual and highlights so many salient points that women who are trying to loose weight may face. Although the article doesn’t directly resonate with myself I know countless women who have gained a few unwanted pounds (post pregnancy) and felt their partner took the wrong approach to aid their weight loss journey. The women I encountered said they felt were body shamed and filled with emotions of guilt for “loosing control of their weight”. For health reasons alone I think it is extremely important to be proactive and eat healthy, however I do appreciate how arduous that can be at times.

    • October 29, 2015 at 4:08 pm

      Thanks for the lovely feedback Charlene! I’m so glad to hear this feedback, so thank you for taking the time to comment 🙂

      Definitely agree with focusing on the health reasons – and I think your blog recipes definitely help with making healthy food choices here!

  • April 24, 2017 at 8:00 pm

    What to do if my gf immediately shuts down and won’t even discuss working out? I’ve tried hinting at it nicely and politely while being positive and supportive. But it is no use.

    • April 29, 2017 at 11:55 pm

      Hey Joe,
      Without knowing her or your exact situation, here are my thoughts: It’s possible she’s very insecure or has had prior issues with body image, and painful associations can very easily make any hinting from you feel like a huge slap in the face for her. Her brain might be screaming something like “he thinks I’m fat and doesn’t like me!”, even though this may not be anywhere near true at all.

      I would suggest not hinting at anything in the future if she is shutting down; instead try and focus on something simple to begin with, like going for a walk with her each day. And make this activity about you wanting to spending time with her, not trying to get her burning Calories (that’s just a pleasant side benefit!). If you do this right and she enjoys spending time with you (while also being active), that will start to form some positive associations when she thinks about exercise/moving her body and she may even start to enjoy getting out and exercising. It may be a very slow process and trying to get her to change sounds like it would greatly hurt progress, so don’t do it in this case! Hope this helps!

  • May 31, 2017 at 1:05 pm

    This is a great article and everything makes a lot of sense. I feel like I’ve been following these tactics, but it’s not working. My girlfriend is not terribly overweight, but she should lose 15-20 pounds. The problem is that some of her medication has slowed her metabolism, so she has to work a lot harder and eat carefully… but she really enjoys food, wine, excessive amounts of salt, and soft pretzels. She also makes many excuses as to why she doesn’t workout. Here’s a few notes:

    1) I, myself, workout 5 days a week, and I’ve been doing it for 12 years. I’m very healthy. I’ve told her how great it feels and that it’s easy to do if you make it a required part of your day. My schedule is way busier than hers and I find time to exercise, so she has no excuse.
    2) I never ever insult her body. In fact, I go above and beyond to make her feel sexy. I truly do think shes sexy. But I would find her more attractive if she was thinner like she used to be.
    3) I’ve told her it would make me very happy if she would exercise 5 days a week and make sure she stays healthy. I also tell her not to fret about eating super healthy – just be reasonable. I’ve also suggested eating healthy on the 5 weekdays and then enjoy whatever she wants on the weekend.. But she just eats and drinks freely every day.
    4) She has a fitbit which should make it very easy to set goals… but she won’t use it. I’ve praised her for having that fitbit, telling her that it’s super cool that she can use it to set goals, and I’ve considered getting one myself.
    5) I do my best to do active things with her, like bike rides, but the weather in Michigan is only nice for a very limited period of time.
    6) Her mom recently told my girlfriend that shes the heaviest she’s ever seen her, and that bummed her out really bad… so I very much want to avoid negative feedback! However, it did motivate her to eat better… for about 4 days.
    7) She regularly complains about her belly, arms, “double chin”, and cellulite… but she chooses to try things like “dry brushing” rather than exercise.
    8) She does a really good job of keeping the rest of her life together. She’s super smart, organized, cooks really well, keeps a clean living space, maintains good relationships with people, excels in her career, and shes almost always in a great mood.. so it seems that someone with these attributes should be able to keep up with exercise!

    I’m running out of ideas. Eventually, I will have to be completely honest with her that I want her to lose weight, but I am terrified that this will shatter her and damage our intimacy… What are your thoughts?

    • June 2, 2017 at 10:25 am

      Hi Jake,
      First of all, props to you for doing all the right things and not making her feel bad for how things are going. I can’t really give advice about how it will go if it does end up coming to an honest conversation, because I don’t know either of you, but for what it’s worth here are my thoughts.. There’s no taking away from the fact that it’s a tough situation! Can you try spending more time with her while you do your exercise? As in, involve her when you go to do exercise. I’m not sure what you usually do (gym?) or how your schedules line up, but maybe you could convince her to take exercise time alongside yours. If that doesn’t work, how about trying to instill small habits like this one?
      The whole premise of this operation hinges on her taking her own initiative to exercise and then getting hooked on it herself. So can you find something that she already likes doing (hanging out with her friends, or enjoying food) and tweak those things so they are more healthy? For instance, if she enjoys great food, how about trying out some healthy new recipes together? Or if she likes hanging out with her friends, somehow try and get her making friends with others who would do something like group fitness classes together.
      It sounds like she does care about her appearance, so maybe try and use that to an advantage in this whole ‘subtle convincing’ stage. I would also say try and figure out her internal beliefs/thoughts/feelings about exercise, eating healthy, and eating. Finding out what kind of meanings and preferences/priority she associates with ‘exercise’, ‘eating healthy’, ‘relaxing watching TV’, ‘drinking wine’ etc may uncover some hidden beliefs that are driving her ultimate behavior. (E.g. if she associates ‘eating healthy’ with: ‘I am doomed to eat plain, boring, unsatisfying food’ then maybe she’s already decided in her mind that she’d rather be slightly overweight than do that.)
      If you can uncover and change those meaning associations, you may be able to change her behavior. Alternatively, you could go all out and try and do the confrontation – just make sure it’s done in the best way possible. Wishing you heaps of luck!

  • November 27, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    Hey, thanks for the tips, I’d like to get your thoughts on my situation.

    A few years ago my girlfriend had gained a LOT of weight quickly (like 40 lbs in a couple of months). I didn’t say anything to her directly, but I did use your techniques (somewhat) and she did start exercising some, but wouldn’t change her diet (which is the REAL thing that makes you gain/lose weight). It wasn’t until she got on my computer (without permission) and read some private messages to a friend where I asked him for advice that she actually made a change, and WOW did she. She lost ~40 lbs and looked amazing, she was even lifting with me.

    Fast forward and she has completely stopped working out. She hasn’t really gained weight, but for one I miss working out together, and for another, she lost all the muscle tone that she got. I’ve been trying to use your techniques again, but she would just rather sit and watch TV (and she even derides me for working out alone, saying “Are you trying to make me feel bad?”.

    I feel like the only thing that makes her work out is fear. How can I ease her into working out until she starts having fun with it, without having her be scared and feel bad about herself? I want this to be a fun activity we can do together.

    • December 1, 2017 at 2:04 pm

      Hey Jaison,
      Glad to hear that some of the tips did work (at some stage). It’s a tricky situation you’re in, because as you know, ultimately you can’t really make anyone do anything they don’t want to.

      I don’t know the full story, but were you able to identify the reason why she stopped lifting with you and essentially fell back into old habits? Also, how does she feel about this change? Happy, sad, or neutral? Understanding her feelings about it all may really help shed some light on why she’s acting as she currently is. Don’t underestimate trying to understand how she feels or why she’s doing a certain thing – in my experience, women really love it when their guy cares enough about their feelings to really try and understand her and empathize with what she’s feeling (WITHOUT suggesting solutions/giving advice – this is usually pretty tricky for a male to do as it can sometimes feel pointless, but it is doing something good, trust me!).

      Essentially though, what you want to do is this: get her to associate positive thoughts and feelings with healthy behavior like working out or eating healthy. You could also try ‘piggybacking’ off activities or habits that she does have.

      It’s a scientifically proven fact that particular thought patterns in our brains can get ingrained through habitual use. For example, if you’ve had a hard day at work, and time you experience this stimulus, you go sit down and watch TV to relax, you’ll eventually associate watching TV with that relaxing, great feeling that you get. You’ll want to sit and watch TV just to get that feeling. This can work in any way that you let it – if you try and ‘wire’ new habits or activities to a particular stimulus, you can do that too. Through constant practice and use, the neural circuits in your brain get wired to fire at the same time (and thus become ‘linked’ up).

      You could try getting your girlfriend to ‘link up’ her brain in healthier ways. Look for something she really likes doing, or try to understand why she likes doing that task (watching TV may be one of them). You may be able to subtly lead her back to when you two were working out together. You could always also use positive motivators, e.g. “I really miss working out with you, you’re my favorite gym buddy” etc.

      Don’t underestimate the power of questions too – by structuring your questions effectively, you can help a person to focus on positives that they may not otherwise think of. For instance, questions like “hey, what was your favorite part about when we used to go to the gym together?” almost force a positive response and force the person to think about good things.

      Definitely don’t use fear as a motivator, and always be genuine. I’d really try to focus on the positives and try not to let yourself be too bogged down by her not wanting to join you or any derision from her – just keep setting a positive example and maybe she’ll be able to realize that she’s missing out on time spent with you. Even though it may not feel like it’s working, if you keep it up for long enough, it does add up, and could hopefully result in a positive change on her part.

      It’ll probably be pretty tough for you, but hopefully you can get through to her in the end. Good luck!

  • February 6, 2018 at 12:51 pm

    For a lot of women, getting her to exercise will work if you do this :

    “Hey, honey. I will watch the kids for you if you wanted to go for a walk.”

    If you aren’t offering childcare, you aren’t really helping her to exercise.

    • February 8, 2018 at 1:34 am

      Wow Sarah, that’s such a simple one, that must be overlooked by so many males! Thanks for sharing this great tip – I must admit that since I don’t have any kids, I didn’t even think of this one!

  • February 23, 2019 at 9:18 am

    Have tried all of the above and still she around 20kgs heavier than me for th last 10years. I know we have 4 kids together which is hard. I suppose its kinda so much skinnier. It makes it so hard to just cuddle comfortably. Id be happy if she was more near my weight not even skinny because im a bit taller. Wont ever leave my wife but honestly it is just annoying. Would be happy if she consistently walked around th block just once a week. I said ill look after the kids. And done th cooking thing and try to go as a family but just is sooo hard to be consistent. Even as u mentioned try to get her togo with other mums and friends but no success. Anyway rant over guess ill just have to accept it .

    • March 1, 2019 at 4:29 am

      Hi Geoff, that’s tough. Glad to hear it’s not something you’d ever leave her over though. It must be really hard to find the time with 4 kids! The only thing I can say is don’t give up, even though it might feel like you’ve tried everything. Consistency is definitely key, and if you/her can be consistent, even small changes may add up over time. Whether it is just walking around the block a few times a week – try going with her or linking it up to something that she likes? Making food substitutions/changes can also be a small change that may make a big difference over time. Don’t underestimate the mental factor either – does she want to lose weight or is she happy as she is? The key is to get her to the point where she is making the change for herself. Good luck 🙂

    • June 22, 2019 at 2:28 pm

      Hi Geoff,

      I was in a similar spot to your wife; and I was a veggie for a long time.
      Keto changed my body completely with a little exercise on the side.
      Being tired all the time from looking after kids also helped crash my motabolism and libido. Cutting out carbs by upping the fats was awesome! Still felt I was treating myself by eating bacon, cream, coconut oil and mayonnaise on everything; AWESOME! Went back to carb-junk eating during a rough patch and gained almost all the weight; took a year though. Getting back on to keto though- I was regularly told I looked 20 years younger! So why did I go back to carbs; old bad habits under stressful situations. Check out Dr. Gundry on YouTube, he was president of the American Cardiologists Association and speaks openly about what the best diet is for us all. Weight gain is UNAVOIDABLE especially after having kids if we don’t change what we eat in order to support the hormonal function. He has a great book called the Longevity Paradox which outlines all this. Good luck to you both.

      • June 29, 2019 at 1:07 pm

        That is some awesome advice MiaoMiao, thank you for sharing your story!

  • June 29, 2019 at 10:29 am

    Thanks for the tips. Now i realize i was wrong in approaching her regarding her unhealthy lifestyle and figure. I was so dumb not figuring this out soon.

    • June 29, 2019 at 1:02 pm

      You’re most welcome John. As the saying goes, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar… Positive reinforcement rather than negative will usually always have a greater chance of success! Good luck.

  • September 14, 2019 at 12:41 am

    This is an amazing article. I mentioned it several times to my fiancee and it needed ended well. I love her and I’m very much attracted to her, lately her tommy has started getting bigger. I will try this and hopefully it turns out well. Thank you

    • September 17, 2019 at 4:06 am

      Thanks for the positive feedback Nathan, I’m glad you’ve had positive results out of this! Good and loving communication is key and it sounds like you have that.

  • September 1, 2021 at 3:11 am

    This article was not helpful. The first two advices dealt with providing the guy with perspective on coping with the issue.. There are hardly any guys commenting their success stories after reading this so I’m definitely not the only one

    • September 1, 2021 at 10:57 am

      Hey, sorry to hear this didn’t help you out and thanks for sharing your feedback. I’ll make some updates to try and make this more useful.
      Do you mean you tried some of the tips and haven’t had success? It’s a bit of a catch-22 because ultimately, you can’t make someone change. The best you can do is shift your perspective and try to help the other person move towards what they want (which is hopefully to become a healthier version of themselves) by creating a supportive and encouraging environment.


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